Ashley Kalbes, MS, CWP, CIC
In the last couple weeks, I’ve seen a lot about ‘February being the new January’. I hate to be the bearer of bad news for those believers, but it doesn’t work that way. You don’t get one chance (or one month) to be successful at your goal for the whole year.
It is a New Years’ resolution for a reason, it’s not a New Months’ resolution! It is something you want badly enough to dedicate a year to making the change, so it can be engrained as a lifestyle!
Therefore, every day is a new chance for you to be a better version of yourself. Why would you only give yourself one chance (one month) and base the whole year off of that?
If you haven’t perfectly accomplished your New Year’s resolution yet, that’s OK! You are human-just like the rest of us, and that means we need lots of chances to practice making the choices we want. Humans are creatures of habit and change is not always immediate, rather it is a journey.
Give yourself the gifts of forgiveness and compassion when you make a bad choice, you later regret. Don’t beat yourself up over it and make a whole lot more choices you regret, further creating a downward cycle for yourself.
I know, I’ve been there… It can be easy to think “well, I already screwed up by eating that cookie [insert junk food of any kind here], I might as well eat 12 more of them since I’ve already messed up!
It doesn’t have to be this way! You are still better off eating 1, or 4 cookies, compared to 12. (Maybe this is extreme, but I think you get my point.)
Notice negative thoughts about screwing up all the good you’ve worked towards? Notice them, and choose to think differently. Over time, it will come more naturally, more easily, and more automatic to have forgiveness and compassion for yourself when you make a less than desirable choice. You will truly know and believe that all is not lost from one (or two) bad decisions, and that it is MUCH easier to come back from a few mistakes, than from 20 mistakes!
Changing can be downright difficult, especially on your own. That is why we need the grace to make mistakes along the way and the self-compassion to keep trying.
If you are looking for extra support personalized to you and your goals, feel free to send me a message. We can chat further about your goal, what holds you back, and why now is the right time to take control.